Saturday, September 27, 2014

3 Needs

I saw this one day recently and realized how true it is. Especially for me. Words have always been very important to me and these days, they are everything. 

1) It is hard to find the words for loss. I try every day to do justice to the emotions I feel and the experiences I have, and while the words come fairly easily, I wonder if they can really speak to the stuff going on in my heart, my head, and my life. Still, I think for the most part, I have found the words for loss. And I am grateful for that. 

2) I not only find the words, but I say them aloud. That's the part that comes easiest for me I think. I pour my heart out daily on the blog and I share my words with family and friends as I need. There are times I fear I am becoming a broken record... Or even if things are changing, I fear that people may be thinking, "Okay, get over it already." I know that am walking this path of grief more vocally than many others have, but I think that it has helped me in huge ways. 

3) I am lucky. My words are heard. I am supported. I am loved. I have many someones who will listen. Even if they cannot understand, they hear me. I am not alone. I am not struggling to find a friend in all of this. I have many. And a great family too. 

If these are the 3 needs of the griever, my needs are met. My grief is not over, my journey is still a difficult one, but my basic needs that will allow me to carry on have been met. Thank you. 


  1. Arielle, I so admire your openness and bravery in writing this blog.
    Keep at it Hun, you're doing so well.

  2. Talking about certain things is difficult, because emotions live in the heart and not in the head, so we can only find imperfect words to try to describe the feelings we hold inside.

    And it is nice to read that there are people around you who support you in this difficult time, because I believe that the support of others is a tremendous help to keep going.


Help me feel less alone.