Friday, October 17, 2014

Calendar Perspective

A couple of weeks ago, I noticed something. I was looking at my calendar in my kitchen at home. It's a dry erase board calendar that I update each month. I fill in all the things I have planned, all my commitments, and all my regularly scheduled events (such as Gilmore Girl nights with Jennifer and giving my cats IV fluids subcutaneously every other day). What I noticed was that I was crossing off the days by putting a line through the day after it ended, or a large X.

This is what many people do.

But I stood in my kitchen, staring at my calendar, and I realized that every time I drew an X through a day, I was feeling like this:

Well, I made it through another day.


Yup, another day over.

And I really, really didn't like that. It felt like the wrong attitude. So I decided that I would no longer draw an X through each day.

Instead, when the day is over, I now draw a smiley face. I feel so much better already. It makes a big difference. Envision yourself drawing a line or an X through your calendar day today. Now, envision yourself drawing a smiley face to mark the day as complete. It's really hard to feel negative or sad when you're drawing a smiley face to say the day is done.

I highly recommend it.

Take it from the cat widow.


  1. Brilliant! Thank you so much for ths post.i

  2. OMG. That's a game changer. I immediately pulled my calendar and marked off the day so far this month with happy faces. It feels so cheerful. It feels like I'm making progress and finding my way. It doesn't feel lonely.

    1. I'm so glad you found it to be so important! I am always glad when someone tells me I am making a difference in their perspective. Keep going! :-)


Help me feel less alone.